This week, we’re having fun with two ideas, both of which we covered in previous episodes. The first idea is that there’s such a thing as being named by God—as in Scripture when God named (or maybe re-named) Abraham and Sarah, and Jacob, and Gideon and Peter. We talked about this idea last week. The second idea is that we become one flesh with our spouses when we get married. We also did an episode on that idea a few weeks ago.
So this week we thought we’d let these two concepts collide, and ask ourselves the following question:
Could it be possible that God might have names for us, not as individuals, but as couples, together, as one flesh?
Last week we made this claim: The determined pursuit of our unique, God-given identities is one of the greatest gifts any of us can bring to our marriages.
And we discussed one aspect of those identities in particular—our names. We discussed the possibility that God might have a special word or two that He uses to describe each of us, what George MacDonald, the Scottish author and poet and Christian minister called our “true names.”
A true name, said MacDonald, is “one which expresses the character, the nature, the being, the meaning of the person who bears it.” It is a person’s own symbol, he said. His or her soul’s picture, in a word.
If there is such a thing for each of us—our own name from God, a true name, a soul picture, in a word or two, we need to know that, right?
Come join us for Episode 11, as we consider this question: if we are going to undertake determined pursuits of our unique, God-given identities, we should, as part of those pursuits, seek to discover our own true names. And once we’ve done that, we should see how this idea applies to God giving us a name, as a couple, in marriage.
Doesn’t that sound amazing and good and fun?
We’re so glad you’re here.
This week’s challenge:
So, we don’t know if this is a thing and God actually names our one flesh unions. But we like the idea. We like how it draws married couples closer. We like how it gets them both focused on God. So, maybe it doesn’t really matter—in the end—whether it’s a thing or not. We think God likes it when we ask him these kinds of questions. We think God wants us to get intentional about our joined identities, our joined purposes. We think God likes to see us struggling to discover how we’re meant to impact this fallen world, together, how we’re meant to leave it a little different . . . because we were here . . . because He created us . . . and because He brought us together . . . and because we got married.
So whether it’s a thing or not. We think it’s a great exercise for a healthy, holy marriage to ask God what He calls us, as a married couple. And if we’re willing to listen, He will. We will receive a new picture, a new truth, a glimpse of who we truly are—spouses, united as one.
You, God’s son, God’s daughter, entangled in a holy marriage . . . you are one flesh now, one flesh with your spouse. You’re united in something—something that can actually bear its own name. Do your best to be still, actively listening, actively waiting. And if you don’t hear anything . . . if you wait and you listen and you seek His voice but hear nothing, sense no whisper of what He calls you, don’t fear, don’t get frustrated. Continue trusting Him, continue praying together.
If you do think you hear something, simply check and see whether it aligns with Scripture. And if what you hear communicates God’s love to you and if it is supported by the character of God in Scripture, trust it. Please trust it. Ask God to help you trust it. Ask Him to help you live it . . . live the name . . . live like you believe His name for you. Ask Him to help you believe that His love and good plans for you, as one flesh, are true.
We can’t wait to hear about your experiences, listening and going deeper into what He has for you, as a couple. We can’t wait to hear your names!
Resources for listening for God’s name for your marriage;
You and Me Forever: Marriage in Light of Eternity, by Francis and Lisa Chan
Love and War: Finding the Marriage You’ve Dreamed Of , by John and Stasi Eldredge
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Thank you all so much for listening . . . and we’ll be back next week.