We need friendships—people who know us well. We need good friends who support us in our marriages. We need people around us who bring us God’s life and joy—so that we can overflow His love onto others, including our spouses.
Who are those people for you?
In this podcast, we talk about something really important: friendships. And when we say friendships, we mean, for men, friendships with other men—and for women, friendships with other women.
We’re just going to put it out there: our marriages need us to have good friendships—beyond our marriages, beyond the one flesh union.
Our marriages need us to have support networks. And we’re going to explore why.
This week’s challenge:
Pray that God brings you the right friends. Pray that he continues to “parachute people into your life.” Then, keep watch. Keep your eyes peeled. And forget your old criteria about what kind of friend God wants for you right now.
Look, instead, as Margaret Feinberg wrote in Fight Back with Joy, for people who are slow to speak but quick to listen (James 1). Look for people who don’t want to fix you as much as care for you. Look for people with whom you can simply be yourself. Look for people who are willing to speak truth, but are willing to do so in love for you (Ephesians 4). Look for people who are willing to commit and surrender, willing to be transparent, who are desperate for God.
People who are these things for you are truly gifts from a loving Father God.
Be forewarned, though, they may look nothing like what you expect. And that’s okay. It’s good, in fact. The friendships we create on our own, based on worldly criteria, are only worth so much. The friendships that God creates for us are worth everything.
And for those of you (for those of us) who enjoy these kinds of friendships already, even now, remember to give thanks, heartily to our generous God. We are truly and amazingly blessed by such friendships. And it might easily be so different. So we can never take the friendships we have for granted. We must not forget the gift that friendships are.
What friends in your life right now does God want you to see? What kind of friend are you praying for right now?
Resources for building support networks:
Loop devotional for women from Gather Ministries
WiRE devotional for men from Gather Ministries
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Thank you all so much for listening . . . and we’ll be back next week.